so, i need advice...
im in a relationship that im not sure i should be in. When things are good, they are good, but when they are bad, oh man are they bad. just yesterday i was trying to do homework but ended up arguing for over two hours. i dont know what to do anymore. it seems as though things start to get better and then they end up getting worse.
help!
I would say "get the hell out of there" but I've been stuck with mine for years.
ReplyDeleteIt's part of any relationships. If it does get to the point when it gets physical, it's time to gtfo right now.
it's so hard to say goodbye because people are afraid of being alone or that they will not find anyone else but if things don't change i say leave. eventually you'll be a happier person that you got out of that relationship in the long run.
ReplyDeleteNo relationship is perfect, they all have their flaws, their up and their downs. The problem arises when the bad begins to overshadow the good. My advice to you is to follow you're heart, if it is time to walk away than do so. It is never easy to say good bye but it is much harder to stay and live in constant stress and pain. Good luck, keep your head up, and try your best to focus on you.
ReplyDeletesocmaj - the more you ask, the more confused you will get. some will say "awwww"; others will say "there are ups and downs, hang in there"; some will say "get out."
ReplyDeleteBut there is one constant and one only. That is, you cannot change the other. You can only change yourself.
YOU must change. There is something YOU do that can shift - something you think, say, do. Change those things, and everything around you will change.
Do you hang onto the past? do you accuse? do you fail to listen? do you defend yourself? do you drink while you fight? do you think you know everything? do you encapsulate your partner in labels? do you think it is mostly the partner's "fault?" these are all things you can change.
MT took the words out my mouth . . I believe you can't expect others to make you happy or to build your "happiness" . . you can't love someone if you don't know how to love yourself.
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