Sunday, February 19
Is it ok for guys to check out girls?
I just got in a stupid argument with my bf about this. I wanted him to apologize for checking out girls in front of me...and he says he didn't do anything wrong. How could this be!!!! We were at Urban Outfitters and some hoochie retail girl bends over all the way while she's wearing booty shorts, my boyfriend was drooling!!! I was so hurt! He says I shouldn't get mad because everyone does it...is this true? Could men be wired so differently than women, that it is physically impossible for them not to stare!!!!
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I would get mad too. I'm sure all guys do it, but they shouldn't make it obvious or do it in front of us.
ReplyDeleteIt's not that they are wired differently. It's that they are raised differently that us, women. But, I get what you are saying and you have every right to be upset. I hate that guys sometimes think is alright to check out girls and, then, whistle at them. And they think it's OK to do it. Is so disrespectful to women.
ReplyDeleteIt is totally rude to flirt or drool when in front of your girlfriend or even a friend who is a girl. It is disrespectful - it is very easy to judge the guy's character based on how he acts. A quick glance - sure - but that's it. They can do what they want when they are not with me but these types of actions do not show respect or love for the person you are with. It is really as simple as that. And, yeah, their Momma's should have raised them better (Dad's too.) I raised my son right - he would NEVER be that disrespectful in front of the love of his life because ... why would he want to make her feel bad in any way or doubt his feelings?
ReplyDelete... well, there is an interesting study about this. remind me to tell you about it next week. Personally, I think it's normal and also that it doesn't "mean" anything - and the study upholds that. of course, it can be that some do it with less social awareness than others. that part can be ... "trained."
ReplyDeleteI definitely don't think all men do this, when I go out with my boyfriend I see good looking women and discretely look at him to see if he is "checking them out" but he doesn't even notice them. On the other hand, once we went to the mall and i saw two shirtless Hollister models and I couldn't help turning lol. and he was definitely hurt of course i apologized :/ and I wont be doing it again..
ReplyDeleteI would find it disrespectful especially when its obvious so he should at least not do it when he is with you.
My ex bf checked out a girl in front of me and i think thats totally WRONG!! it's not normal, they are never going to admit that they were at fault. If we did it to them, they wouldn't like it at all. They would have fought with us and made it a big deal. I think if your girlfriend is next to you, thats a big NO NO you shouldn't do that!!
ReplyDeleteIf a person in the relationship is not okay with it, then he/she should respect that person/view and stop it.
ReplyDeleteIts normal. But if he makes comments about her derrière, then well...you know what to do. I say its okay to look. Fyi, you have the same right. ;)
ReplyDeleteits human instinct to "check out" a person but it is not necessarily right, it is wired in us because we are not monogamous animal in nature, just let him know how u feel and if he does it again, then that is a problem, work through it to make him understand
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