Sunday, February 22
Are gender networks acceptable?
Is is okay for guys to have many girl friends without being labeled gay? We have all heard the stereotype, a guy who hangs with a lot of girls is homosexual. What if the guy is heterosexual with a lot of girl friends? Likewise, is it okay for girls to have many guy friends without being labeled a slut? This comment seems to be the more common than gaybashing a guy. When a girl has too many guy friends she is labeled. Is it a threat on the other gender and therefore they label the person or is it just a jealous person's name calling? I guess I'm asking classmates perspective whether having friends of the opposite sex is a acceptable, why or why not?
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Of course it is, friends are friends regardless of their sex or gender. Most of my friends are guys but that doesn't make me a slut. I grew up in a house full of boys so I tend to get along better with guys, not to say that i don't have female friends. With my guy friends, I don't feel the pressure and competition to be better somehow. Some people just relate different to others and nothing is wrong with that.
ReplyDeleteI AGREE WITH "JUST ME" I TOO GREW UP WITH BOYS, ALTHOUGH I WAS THE ONLY CHILD, I WOULD HANG OUT WITH MY GUY COUSINS. ITS TRUE YOU DON'T FEEL PRESSURED AT ANYTHING. I JUST LIKE HANGING OUT WITH THE "GUYS".
ReplyDeleteI personally have more friends that are men, and no one has ever labeled me a "slut" because of it. I have more male friends because sometimes women like to cause problems. What I mean by that is they like to compete with one another and talk behind each others backs all the time, and I hate that. Not to say that all women are like that, but many are. I have many friends that are women; however, I believe I have more friends that are men because they tend to mind their own business, and sometimes women just cannot do that. So to answer your question......Yes I think gender networks are acceptable.
ReplyDeleteIt doesn't matter if your social group consists of males or females. Your gender preference has nothing to do with your friends. Who cares what others think.
ReplyDeleteI believe it is o.k. because both sexes have good qualities that the other sex lacks. I believe incorporating the opposite sex within one's network could be beneficial to the development of an individual's character. I think we all have a masculine/feminine side. A network of both sexes can be beneficial to an individual being the best person that they can be.
ReplyDeleteOF COURSE GENDER NETWORKS ARE ACCEPATABLE! MOSTLY ALL OF MY FRIENDS ARE MALE AND YES YOU GET THAT NEGATIVE ATTENTION BUT YOU KNOW WHAT IT DOES NOT MATTER. YOU HAVE TO BE COMFORTABLE WITH YOURSELF. I GREW UP WITH A GANG OF BOYS AND THE ONLY BAD THING IS THAT YOU HAVE TO LIVE UP TO THEIR STANDARDS WHICH IS AWESOME BECAUSE TIT BRINGS OUT THE COMPETITION.
ReplyDeleteIt is acceptable to have many friends of the opposite sex. Ofcourse, people will jugde you by your past and there will always be the ones who turn a whole situation around. I grew up with mainly a girl friend and many guy friends. They were just nice and they never disrespected us because they knew we had respect for ourselves. Indeed, there were many people who interpreted us as being sluts. :(
ReplyDeleteI agree, I think friends are friends no matter what the gender. However, my mom always said don't trust a girl who doesn't have good girlfriends. I agree. My mom has three sisters, who she is very close with and have all had a very important part of my life. In my family, it's just me and my sister, and we're very close. And all of my cousins on my mom's side are girls. I guess my girlfriends have been more important to me than my guy friends because you never know what guy's motives are really. However, in highschool I was known as one of the guys, which was fun, guys can just be fun. I defenetley don't think having many guy friends makes someone a slut!!! I HATE THE WORD SLUT!!!! I also think that a man who has lots of women friends shows he strong and comfortable with his "manhood" (which is such a big thing for many guys), it doesn't necessarily have to mean he's gay. I think it's all in the motives. Right now my best friend is my fiance, whose a man. But I still have my best girlfriends who will be there with me no matter what and vice versa, and I make quality time for them.
ReplyDeleteWho you hang out with should not be an issue. I think it's cool to hang out with people of the opposite sex if your comfortable with it.
ReplyDeleteThis topic actually came up in a radio station a few weeks ago. They were talking about if girls should have guy friends when they are dating someone. Many men would have a problem with their girlfriend/wife having men as friends. They were talking about how if a man is a girl's friend, he has an agenda to eventually get with that girl unless he is gay. I don't know how true that is. Personally, my fiance does not like me having guy friends because he doesn't see the point. If I had a guy friend that I knew for a long time before my fiance came into the picture, it would be a different story. I don't have a problem with that because my best friends are girls. I personally think it's perfectly normal to have friends from the opposite sex. I have guy acquaintances and co-workers but not guy best friends.
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ReplyDeleteWhen I first met my boyfriend I was surprised that he didn't have any friends. I was used to always being around my girlfriends so it was weird to me that he just hung out with his brothers or cousins. He has a saying that his father passed on to him, "los amigos se quedan en la puerta de la casa y para la calle". Which means friends should not come into your home and keep them away and on the street. I now like this saying because it has kept problems out of our relationship. When we were first dating we would get into arguments about my friends, now those arguments are a thing of the past.
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