Friday, January 30
Forgiveness
Well i brought up the question of "Forgiveness", because i when throug an experience that change the way i look at people & friends. . . .I had a group of friends and sum go way back to high school, but when a good friend of mine got a girlfriend there was conflict because i knew she was no good for him in many ways. Instead of helping him improve, she was making him worthless & violent. Due to his gf there was split of groups and i was attack verbally by him. Friends where force to chose sides. I was so hurt i declare him has dead to me. After all the conflict i had a best friend who stood by me but i did not took long for her to betrayed me, by being hippocratical, fake, and not honest. I cut her out my life too. I just feel people come to be something they are not. Due to the chaos i went throug it is hard to trust people and care for them. MY quetsion is? should i accept people how they are even thought i do not approve of their actions or behavior? After 8 month I recently saw the guy i declare dead and he approach me with a smile & a hand shake. I accept his hand shake but is just odd to me that he knows how much he hurt me and wants to act as nothing has happen. What should i do in this case? it seems he realized what he had lost (a good friend) and now he just wants to come back like nothing.
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Think carefully. If this person has suddenly come back into your life and asked for forgiveness, do not make a rash decision. Tell them you need some time to think about it, and you will definitely get back to them.
ReplyDeleteTake some time out of your day. Make sure you're alone, and in an environment that makes you comfortable. If it helps, cry. Think about what this person did to you, and whether you can trust him not to do it again. If you think you can, decide how close you want to become to this person. Make sure you realize and think through the following:
It is completely normal to feel angry or upset. But if you want to forgive this person and restore your trust in them, swallow your feelings. It will be easier to forgive this person if there is not a big amount of negative feelings towards them.
You must make sure it is a sensible decision to forgive this person. Small, sometimes even medium hurts can be healed. But it's also important to know whether the person is capable of hurting you again. If what they did to hurt you was a bad habit of his, he is most likely to hurt you again. For example, if a person lied to you, they would be more likely to do it again rather than someone who said one hurtful thing.
Contact the person. It is better to have a face to face chat, or at least a phone call. Talk to him about what happened, why you have decided to forgive him, and tell him that you are giving him your trust once more if that is what you really want to do.
LOVE AND WAR...IT IS A HARD TOPIK TO TALK ABOUT MOST PEOPLE LIKE TO SEAT FROM THE SIDELINES AND CRITICIZE YOU BUT IN REALITY IT SHOULD NOT MATTER WHAT THEY THINK BECAUSE IN THE LONG RUN YOU ARE GOING TO HAVE TO LIVE WITH THESE DECSIONOIND WHETHER THEY WERE WISE OR NOT I BELIEVE IN FORGIVENESS BECAUSE HOW CAN YOU LIVE WITH ALL THAT ANGER, HATE OR WHAT NOT THAT WILL ONLY MAKE YOU REMEMBER ALL THE BAD THAT WAS DONE TO YOU I SUGGEST THAT YOU TAKE BABYSTEPS BEFORE YOU KNOW IT YOU WONT EVEN REMEMBER WHY YOU WERE ATTRACTED TO HIM IN THE FIRST PLACE MAKE TIME FOR YOURSELF ENJOY LIFE IT IS TO PRECIOUS
ReplyDeleteLife is too short to keep living in the past. Let it go, why hold on to negative emotions? Those emotions will only eat you alive. Live in the moment for tomorrow may never come
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