I seem to have a theme going on here with my blogs (mothers now fathers) but, I wanted to salute the men who take on the role of what is called "womens work" and stay home to raise the kids.
Ladies, there are good men out there. These men go unnoticed. They have set their pride and masculinity issues down to take on the hardest job in the world (raising their kids-sometimes another mans kid). They are changing diapers, making lunches, answering all of the "but why" questions and reading bedtime stories, (women have done it for years).
As Fathers Day approach, let us not think of all the negative stereotypes we hear about the "no good man" with babies by different "baby momma's", paying no child support. Let's celebrate those men who don't just phone in their fatherhood or send it in a monthly check. Let's salute the FTF's.
If you know any of these men, (your father, brother, husband) give them a shot out on this post.
I'll give the first shot out to my husband. I am able to finish my education full time while he works. Together we have two sons. He is a great father.
ReplyDeleteMy boyfriend has been in a custody battle for his daughter for the past 3 years. He's a great Dad but what is sad is that he doesn't get as much time with her as he would like because his baby's mom just can't let go of the past. I admire his determination and want to recognize him this Father's Day for overcoming all the obstacles his baby's mom sends his way.
ReplyDeleteBeing a parent is a lfie-long commitment. With so many "bad" fathers being singled out--we forget to look at how many "good" fathers are out there--fulfilling their commitments. Thanks for the post.
ReplyDeleteI was raised in a single mother household. My mother had four daughters to raise all by herself! My dad passes away when I was a baby so in essence I never knew him, only from pictures. I am also the youngest, so the memories that my older sisters have of him- I don't...I only can ask questions. I am thirty, and have a six year old to raise, but not by myself...his dad and I live together...we have been together for almost twelve years but for some reason when he leaves for work or to see family or friends I always think in the back of my mind," Is he coming back?"...
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ReplyDeleteI was not raised by my bio-father and my stepfather died after my mom and he were only married for 3 months-I was 5. I had major abandonment issues. It caused me several relationships. My advice to you is Don't let your past dictate your future. Your boyfriend has been with you for 12 years. When he leaves, "He's coming back",he never left. Sounds like you got a good man. Recognize it.
I salute my father because he's the best to me. he's always been there for me and helped me through my tough times, he never gave up on me and I love him to death. He's 60 years old and he works his butt off everyday, even when he's home he's helping my mom. It's incredible how much energy and dedication my mom and dad have, I look up to them but can not imagine myself in their shoes. I just hope that when I'm a parent I have as much strength as they have!
ReplyDeleteI've been raising my daughter on my own since she was born, she is now six-years old. Her father has been in and out of prison for the past six years. I can never wish him a "Happy Father's Day" because he has never taken that responsibility of a father. Usually when we think of a single parent it's very common to think of a mother but, I know that great fathers still exist and I want to congratulate them!!! Your role as a father is very important in your child's life, your commitment is appreciated not only on father's day but everyday.
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ReplyDeleteThanks for the advice. I do recognize that my boyfriend has been around for 12 years, and he is probably not going anywhere - but it was me growing up with no father and in the "ghetto" which meant no one else had a positive or "no" role model at all...all I am saying that if worse comes to worse...I am ready to raise my son by myself. I have always been very independent no matter how hard things get, my mother taught me that... I do admit there are some good fathers out there, I have seen a few, my boyfriend is great with our son. And for the record, I do reconize it, but i wil not boast about it!
Salute to all the men holding babies.
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ReplyDeleteI'm glad that you do recognize it. I pray that you don't push him away to prove to yourself that you were right all along saying "see I was right men will leave-they always do." It's called "self fulfilling prophecies" It keeps you as a victim. Yes you can raise your son by yourself-you're a woman. But why would you want to. Girl shout it from the mountaintop, boast. Say to yourself "I got a good man" and believe it. It's ok to believe that you deserve it.
To: Moe T
ReplyDeleteOnce again thnx, I do recognize it...you live your life, I will live mine, I have never depended on anyone, man woman or child. You can stand on a mountain top all day and all night, but you won't see me on one... Have you ever heard the saying "Different strokes for different folks". You do that and so will I...Have a nice life. I will definitely pray for you, too.
Queen Bee
ReplyDeleteI truly apologize if I have offended you. That was not my intentions. Its just that your story sounded just like mine. I felt the same way for years. I understood where you were coming from. But this blog was not the place to give out my advice. Again I apologize
I have a wonderful boyfriend that I would like to shout out. He has two children two different baby momas. Yet, he attempts "quite often" not to entertain their thoughts of them being together. He simply wants to be friendly for the sake of the children. It often seems they try to hold his kids aginst him because he's with someone else and appears to be happy. It saddens me to see him argue with either of them over the time he wants to be with his kids. How could women be so rude. The father of my children completly ignores them, and I could only wish for simple father-son, and father-daughter conversations for my children. However, my boyfriend does a real good job taking on the father role to my two..... Thanks Baby.
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