Have you ever been with a girl/guy and you cant forget about them after a break up? then one of you calls "just to say hi" and before you know it your dating again? then a month later you break up again? only to keep thinking about that person, even though you 100% know it wont work out? and there's as better chance of snow in los angeles then a stable relationship between you two?
i have been through this cycle with this girl for the past 2 years. now shes on zoloft, lol sory baby. didnt mean to drive you crazy......
this is a friend of yours. tell her to take a dance class, maybe find a spiritual guide, read six really good books (pick them out for her if you want, and buy them as a gift) - and get off the pills. Don't try to cover a hole with a pill.
ReplyDeletePineapple...it is called familiarity, you know what to expect therefore you stay or try try again instead of stepping out into the unknown such as being by yourself or trying something new. I have experienced what you described but what I learned is that relationships are a process just like anything else in life. When you are done you will know it without a doubt, until then you will keep trying because it's a process to let go.
ReplyDeleteForget about them...everthing happens for a reason...been there done that...move on with your life, life is too short. And as my mother always said, "there are other fish in the sea".
ReplyDeleteI remember I used to be really stuck on stupid with my first boyfriend. We tried the long distance relationship with him moving between CA, WA, and Mexico. My intuition compelled my to stop by his house one night, and like my senses had signaled he was messing with another girl. I left without saying a word and from that point I fooled myself to think that I would never see or talk to him again. I was stupid enough to forgive him and answer his calls and text messages. When I found out he had pictures of girls on his photobucket account I had to walk away. This was five years ago, and since then he still tries to talk to me.He just won't leave me alone. I still think about him...but when I remember the pain he put me through it gives me that reality check to keep him out of my life. My current boyfriend makes sure that Mr. Ex will get a beat down if he tries anything crazy to get back with me.
ReplyDeleteyour story sounds really familiar to me, maybe because i was once in your position not so long ago. queen bee was right, everything does happen for a reason as well as things that dont happen is for a reason too. what i learned is that you'll never stop the cycle until you realize you dont want to be in that situation anymore. life goes on. you probably keep trying because you think it could work out somehow some way and you dont want to give up but just remember "Giving up doesn't always mean you are weak; sometimes it means that you are strong enough to let go."
ReplyDeleteWow i appreciate all the comments guys/girls! we have officially broken up since 2 weeks ago but i do still think about her, but i know now. ITS OVER. Its also comforting to see several of you in the same position and that its not just me who has weak will power. lol
ReplyDeletestaying away now is not a choice, more like a must because our relationship ( or lack there of) has really put her in a bad situation emotionally. If i were to call or accept her call, it would only be making her emotional situation worse.
i believe that if i do care about her, i must let her go. our back and forth bullshit is just making her more frustrated in the head thus making her situation worse.
thank you for the comments again
just like one song says you have to let it go and if if it comes back thats how you will kno.....
ReplyDeleteit's true what queen bee said you just need to forget about them and move on. Everything happens for a reason people come and go in our lives. If you already know it's not going to work why keep trying, maybe your just meant to friends.
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