Thursday, February 2
Shld we move in TOGETHER? need insight
My boyfriend and I are about to move in together to see if we going to take things to the next level as far as marriage, I know this is a little backwards but hey who say we have to go by the rules. lol He was my child hood crush been knowing him since I was 10 and he was 13, he didn’t pay me any mind because of our ages difference, but after 12 years of not talking to each other we just go back in contact almost two years ago and been dating for the last year. I’m so happy in my life, and this is the happiest I have been in years, it feels like a dream come true. Yes I’m a little scared about us moving in together. This is new for him, because he currently lives alone. But I have a son and that where I’m afraid at. Ugh !!!!! I have never brought any other guys I dated around my son since me and his father separated and not sure how this will play out. We have went over the situation which is at hand and he seem to be ok with it,( well what choice he have it he wants to be with me, he have to accept my son) but that’s because he haven’t lived with us yet and haven’t seen the daily operation of what it’s like to live with us.( Because spending the night doesnt count) It’s not bad but it’s not his son and he dont you know. IDK someone has to had been in my shoes or have some good advice, I’m down to hear it.
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Wow. Big step. I have not been in this situation, but all i can say is....just give it a try. I will not lie, i know it will be hard an overwhelming at times, but if you guys love eachother, wht not just give it a chance. Good luck!
ReplyDeleteWhat you don't mention in this post is whether he is involved in your son's life right now. Do you all do things together? Does he like your son? Does your son like him? This is a big step. If the answers to all the above questions is yes, then go for it. But, if he barely knows your son, hasn't taken an interest in him yet, is just going to see him as part of the package of being with you then I say no ...... take the steps necessary for them to get to know each other better. Your son has to come first. But, then, you already know that. Just my thoughts.
ReplyDeleteHEY! Yes that is very important his involvement in my son life, sorry I didn’t mention it, I thought it was implied because no way would I just jump and bring a stranger into my child life lol I guess I should of mention that huh Even though we he hangs out with my son and play the Wii with him and take him to the park for sport day, it’s still noting like living with someone. For example I was living with my best friend and son and it wasn’t the same living together as it was just spending the night and going home, Our friendship change ( thank God for the good) but we couldn’t live together, we notice our bond was better apart then together. I know that different than someone I like. But IDK
DeleteJabeaux54 asks important questions. Answer them.
ReplyDeleteAlso, allow me to say this. A blog is not the place to be OVERLY concerned with grammar and spelling and appropriate language, but read over your post. Are there some things that stand out to you as ... beneath your level of education? Is it "Me and my boyfriend are ..." Would you say "Me are moving?" there are other and then "He have his own place." Have he? or has he? then "We have went" ... is that it or is it "We have gone..."
I know these questions may be irritating in the face of such a major decision as you are making, but you are deciding to take or not to take the next step "up" into adulthood and responsibility. Even the way you speak and write is part of that. It is!
So ... do you know where the edit button is? It's a little pencil under your post....
And remember to answer Jabeaux's questions - her comment is more important than my comment here.
You’re so correct MT! I didn’t take the time to correct my grammar or punctuation. I was just typing, thanks for calling me out on that and calling me higher I really appreciate it . When I went back and re read it I was like oh no lol
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